The Great Indian Attitude-part2

Recently I was at a marriage reception and there was this orchestra performing at one end of the hall. And there was a little kid, not more than 3 on the stage who danced to their songs by jumping and throwing hands all over the place. It was adorable and everyone seemed to be enjoying the kid’s antics. A little later the kid's mom scooped him away from the stage and walked away to the buffet service. Then came another mom with her daughter; she dropped her daughter on stage and started showing some bizarre actions with her hands. Only later I realized that she was asking her daughter to dance and the kid seemed to repeat what the mother did and kept doing it until her mother was happy. The mother then clapped her hands and then took the daughter with her and was soon lost in the crowd. Watching the other kid turn some heads she wished her kid too got an audience. It was amusing that mom's envy other kids being in the limelight and expect their kids to do the same. This couldn't be cited as a mistake as though when the kids are too young to decide what’s good for them. But once kids grow up parents have to be less demanding and more liberal and supportive. I had a similar experience while I was around 8 yrs old, my mom and neighboring aunts decided to send their kids for music classes. It didn't take more than 3 weeks for my parents to learn that music was a farfetched dream for their son. My classes stopped instantaneously and my parents weren’t ready to experiment me with anything else. And like every other parent they sent me to tuitions though I never actually needed them. I was pretty good in studying but they just believed the general notion about tuitions, "if your kid failed in exams he would pass and if your kid scored 80s he would score centum". My parents dreamt of centum and it never happened. I still scored in 80s and if at all I scored a 90 then they would justify their act saying it happened coz of the tuition. I didn’t want to give any honor to those idiots..!! All they did was asking me to do homework and study for tests which I could very well do at home.

Parents need to learn that kids need more exposure other than just studies. If my parents had sent me to guitar classes or table-tennis coaching it would have served as an add-on in my resume. Most of the schools now have all these things in their curriculum, right from karate to horse-riding, you name it and they have it. Of course you need a fortune to spend every year for this kinda schools. Education became a business when they started calling it "Quality Education". And quality comes at a price.

Parenting is a tough task and it just gets tougher as kids grow. There must be a brief counseling on "Parenting" for couples soon after marriage; it will definitely help, save and change many lives. 

The Great Indian Attitude-part1

I would say Indian attitude is also composed of hypocrisy. Neither the media nor the people bother the losers. Few days back India lost to Australia by 81 runs in cricket while the hockey team qualified for the London Olympics by beating France 8-1 (a co-incidence that many failed to notice). Cricket was heavily criticized and the hockey players came under the limelight..of course its a short life under the limelight as India beat Sri Lanka and cricket again fetched all the media attention.Hockey is never in the picture until the olympics while cricket is a news that never fades. A continuous poor show by Indian cricket team not only frustrates the cricket viewers but also gives critics a good time..the national game after becoming a matter of shame when it didnt qualify for the last Olympics did fare well this time with a thumping win in the qualifiers and found sudden love from the media. ” Indians cant digest defeat “.   None has an answer to why cricket became immensely popular and hockey became a game seeking empathy. A kid with a cricket bat yearning to get into the Indian 11 has more odds stacked against him than Mumbai city's population while a kid with a passion for hockey will find it easier to walk right into the playing eleven..its the road less taken.  Sania made tennis popular in India with controversies more than her victories. She was a perfect page 3 celebrity with enough fans and controversies while she was winning tournaments..the day she began losing matches the Indian media too lost interest in her and she too slowly faded away and she made a last yet bold attempt to rein publicity by marrying Pakistani cricketer shoaib malik. A marriage that knotted cricket and tennis also indian and pakistani media with the issue becoming a national bestseller rising fresh speculations of indo-pak relations. And then came saina with another sport in the indian territory. Badminton gained popularity with saina's winning habits and she was more successful than anyother indian sportsperson by making it to the world top ten in the shortest span. The one other successful and consistent sportsperson is vishwanathan anand. He always has had atleast a little space in the sports page dedicated to his regular tournaments and winning scores. If there is proper training and garnering of talent in various sports India with 100b population will become a talent hub. media could do a better job by saving some space and footage for the other games and sports. I know this is just yet another article that is destined to get lost amidst in the thousands that has demanded sports facilty repeatedly to a less concerned govt. 

_hypocrisy as you call it…limelight favors the one that achieves.  

MOVIES AND PEOPLE !!

Since the camera was invented snapshots and movies have become a part of human life and very much influence a viewer's mind. Few bring back memories and few make us sit back and think, leave alone the commercial masala flicks. Good movies have really stood a class apart and this shows the viewer's hunger for reality and their sickness of masala movies. Of course the maturity in the viewers was brought about by flawless scripts- thanks to broad minded directors.

Along with technology the scripts and concepts of the Hollywood have also found a warm welcome in our country. Stealing from Hollywood has become a habit these days. And most of it have did well in box office despite critics accusing the directors for not giving due credits to the actual movie.  Not an unknown fact that cinema is now a globally expanding business, with producers the kingpin behind that "worldwide release" tag.

The expectations of people are getting high with every movie released and stars of the genre "acting is my passion" are competing hard to live up to the expectations of their hardcore fans. And actors Bucked up with consecutive hits along with audacious directors are ready to experiment new things on screen and each of it adds to the hype of the movie. But it has been proved time and again that hype and Star cast for a movie's success has become a thing of the past. - creative directors with a script of substance will do wonders at the box office today. Remakes, sequels and dubbed movies are also in the competition as people don't get to see their favorite stars often on screen with their movie rate being one in 2yrs. Movies still remain the best pastime for the people with IPL and world tournaments inhibiting the ticket sales a little bit at times. Another unnoticed factor is that theatre audiences have increased considerably  since early 2000...thanks to the multiplexes and fight piracy attitude of the people (nothing else can curb piracy). The statistics actually fluctuate with 3D movies and regular movies and with arrival of new multiplexes and most importantly with the number of people turning loyal to torrent sites.

OLD HABITS DIE HARD..

MY DAYS AT KERALA [PART 2]

While u just can’t pass time u keep imagining stuffs. Imagination is man's best gift from GOD. Innovations and Inventions are just a byproduct of imagination...exercising the brain cells is the actual deed. Only Byproducts sell not deeds. And so it isn't a surprise if there are ppl addicted to imagining things..!! Brain is a mystery and mind is a myth. Bury the biological expedition.

 I was wondering what’s the best thing about kerala and several regular aspects came to my mind…Coconut, backwaters, greenery, Mohanlal, NRIs, unemployment, strikes, alcoholism, communism...all these factors have been bonded to kerala for more than a decade and nothing has changed. Nothing new has taken kerala by storm leave alone film stars and dams. Change is inevitable but kerala is a bad example for that. The visible growth and political changeovers in other states have barely influenced or inspired the people of this state. People of kerala are still in the dark…the restless people and intelligent graduates leave the state...and they never come back..!! That’s the secret you can find malayalis all over the world. Migration to other countries started even before you could ever imagine it to be. This is the state where airports run on private partnerships and ministers put up railway stations in their backyards and also the state where there are more number of political parties than police stations. Here even a 8th grade student can call a strike and any one of the political party would back it for publicity ( True and Personal Experience). The roads here don’t fit two buses side by side but the need for speed attitude of bus drivers is a talent that has to be appreciated. The race among the private buses is a thrill for the passengers despite fatal risks involved while the unconcerned govt. buses run empty most of the time. Most of the driving enthusiasts would find it frustrating not being able to burn the rubber coz of broken roads and innumerous curves but the kin of NRIs enjoy the same to drive their Jaguars and BMWs at 20kmph >poor use of the speed demons< Hospitals and schools have increased in number but the sick and uneducated have not decreased.

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MY DAYS AT KERALA [PART 1]

                   It pretty much dawned upon me to know and feel the difference between temples of different states. I knew that temples in kerala were really serious (no offense) about worshipping GOD. They have their regular poojas in time. And the other day I happened to be in one temple near my home and it was the festival period of that temple. Most of the temples had this festival sort of thing and it happened for over a week's time. I was there on the last day or to be precise in the evening darkness of this festive period and it was so colorful with all the pretty ladies around and lamps lighting up the whole vicinity and never can I forget to mention about the three beautifully decorated elephants standing tall among the crowd. I was wearing a t-shirt and a white dhoti and walked past the entire bustle to catch a view of the deity and there were people lined in front of the shrine and I joined them. You had to remove your shirt to get into the main shrine and to get a closer view of the deity. I stood outside the main shrine but still could see the deity. And everyone around was staring at me like I was from another planet. I couldn't understand but maybe coz I was wearing a t-shirt and I was the only one with a t-shirt-dhoti combo. It wasn't cool and it wasn't odd either and I know you wouldn’t agree at this point if I said keralites weren't that good at fashion but that is the truth. Most of them don’t wear t-shirts and forget about girls, they look better the way they are in salwar. After having stood there long enough the crowd dispersed and i too followed. I had a tough time finding mom amidst the crowd who earlier left me alone as soon as we entered into temple premises to meet her old friends. trust me. Women get more excited than men when they meet people after long time, it’s as if they are literally enthusiastic to see someone older than them....just kidding!! And then I found mom among a group of "laughing out loud" women..lol women.. I greeted them all with a smile else they will think am arrogant…typical indian mentality…The women started asking details from my resume while their eyes were busy studying me [call that MULTITASKING] and they were looking at me like "so this is your son?? I shall marry my daughter to him..!!" That's another fact about kerala moms...they admire the gorgeous as their son-in-law or daughter-in-law...!![Not me]!! They won’t spare anything which has the potential to improve their status in the society….beautiful son-in-law or daughter in-law, a new coat of paint for home, a car even if its third-hand, at least one kid studying in English medium school and such innumerous things. While i was having chitchat with my mom's friends she went inside and had a view of the deity and finished her list of offerings for the deity. After a final gudbye to all we left the temple with our hearts filled...me with experience and mom full of mixed emotions.